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With this ring…….

     I remember my wedding day. we were two teenagers “in love” with hardly any money and big dreams.  Our humble ceremony was in Spanish because we attended a Spanish American church. Our Pastors loved us, they opened their hearts to us.  Sharing stories of their early years in marriage and in ministry evangelizing in south America and pastoring in Visalia, California.  I have to be honest it touched my “feels” when they shared their heart for the city we lived in.  When Teresa and I were looking for an area to hold our ceremony.

     We were denied many venues but, It was our pastors (Hermano and Hermana Gamez) who opened their homes to have the ceremony.  So there we were, in their living room pledging our vows and wearing our best.

I heard those words when translated “with this ring, I thee wed”  (in Spanish) many years after that day,  I want to share with you how these words can help you take your marriage to the next level.

Guys, wouldn’t you agree that it can be very easy to forget details about our wedding?  The media would have us believe we can’t remember how to make a sandwich, let alone a special day like our marriage. I can remember bits and details after almost 26 years but it is these moments that my wife wants to cherish.  if we could cherish the declaration of our love to our spouse when we repeated after the Pastor “With this ring.”

I have learned that it is a declaration that is more than words but a liken these words to a declaration of war!  “With this ring”  is a statement that I made to my spouse as a solemn affirmation of what we are undertaking.  Yeah buddy it is that serious.  I forget sometimes you know?  I get that it is my spouse who is my “through-thick-and-thin” friend. We have a kid together and live life together, it is for this reason that when I look at my ring no matter when or where I am at when I look at my ring I see that I signed up for this. That ring represents my declaration; my responsibility.

What do you see when you look at your ring/ marriage? Let me know in the comments

If you were, to be honest with yourself are you happy with your marriage how it is going and the direction it is going? I am not perfect, but I will share with you what helps me. come back and check us out or even better subscribe.

What do you find challenging as a husband?

2 Love, Honor, Cherish…. -Understand your bride – D.M. Escalante –

Let’s pretend that you and I have made this appointment to talk about marriage.  I trust that we could be sitting down for a cup of coffee or whatever. I know a chill place at town-center we can go to.

If I could add value to your marriage I would say the following verse right here, has helped me answer the “why” in my personal relationship with God. Read the rest of this entry

DAD: Unsung Hero…

This Weekend in many homes across America, a patriarch will be honored by his family. His children and his grandchildren will gather around the Man who deserves to be honored. For all the selfless acts he suffered to the moments when he literally became a real-life superhero.


Have you ever considered your pastor or men’s ministry leader a type of father figure? One who mentors you, can pray with you and for you during times of unrest. He is willing to walk with you if you decide to “man-up” and ask him (if that stung a little, sorry)?

This is one area that a church can really impact a community for the cause of Christ. If Men who are called by the name of the Lord, would humbly call out to the Lord and become the church her hands and feet. To do things afraid, pushing past the comfort zone and tell people about Jesus.

Men are falling ONE-by-ONE

Men are falling ONE-by-ONE succumbing to a distorted societal impression of who God has designed them to be. This is not the new style or wardrobe that a man may use, but rather the inside heart of what makes a man tick. This causes us to adopt inaccurate sources instead of looking to God for what he has created us to do. This is not Macho talk it’s real talk!!

“I want my Son to go further than I, it is my job as his Dad to fully use my life and set the bar high.”


The Reasons vary, from fathers leaving without explanation to fathers not communicating effectively. My dad was in my life. But it was hard. For him and my brother and I.  he didn’t make it o all my football games and the two times he went to my wrestling matches I lost. He told me mean things and cussed me out a lot. BUT, he always made sure that we were taken care of. I will always respect him for that!  I knew that this was the best he could do. Somewhere deep inside of my dad, beneath the tough guy frame is a dad who wants the best for his kids. To know that he loves me even if it’s with a few swear words, ha-ha.

Each of us have the power to change our family tree. To change as dad’s giving the best we can with what we have.  If what we got is not enough then lets look to some of the Old-timers and bring back old school manner’s like firm handshakes and looking people in the eye (not offensively, of course). To know the value of hard work. Even if its with modern technology like marketing. Bring back teaching our kiddos values and where these truths come from.

This Gives our next generation to triumph over the things that have preoccupied our time. This is the way of life, I can speak for me when I say that I want my Son to go further than I do, it is my job as his Dad to fully use my life and set the bar high as I can and encourage him to go for it. my prayer for you as a Man and as a DAD is to let you know that you are not alone. We are like neighbors within the same internet. Let’s band together as brother’s and encourage, pray and teach each other some things so our boys and girls have a fighting chance to break free from the status quo and chart their own course.

What are some “MANners” that should make a comeback?  If you like what you read consider sharing it. if you would like to read about a topic you would like? Leave a comment below.

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