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With this ring…….

     I remember my wedding day. we were two teenagers “in love” with hardly any money and big dreams.  Our humble ceremony was in Spanish because we attended a Spanish American church. Our Pastors loved us, they opened their hearts to us.  Sharing stories of their early years in marriage and in ministry evangelizing in south America and pastoring in Visalia, California.  I have to be honest it touched my “feels” when they shared their heart for the city we lived in.  When Teresa and I were looking for an area to hold our ceremony.

     We were denied many venues but, It was our pastors (Hermano and Hermana Gamez) who opened their homes to have the ceremony.  So there we were, in their living room pledging our vows and wearing our best.

I heard those words when translated “with this ring, I thee wed”  (in Spanish) many years after that day,  I want to share with you how these words can help you take your marriage to the next level.

Guys, wouldn’t you agree that it can be very easy to forget details about our wedding?  The media would have us believe we can’t remember how to make a sandwich, let alone a special day like our marriage. I can remember bits and details after almost 26 years but it is these moments that my wife wants to cherish.  if we could cherish the declaration of our love to our spouse when we repeated after the Pastor “With this ring.”

I have learned that it is a declaration that is more than words but a liken these words to a declaration of war!  “With this ring”  is a statement that I made to my spouse as a solemn affirmation of what we are undertaking.  Yeah buddy it is that serious.  I forget sometimes you know?  I get that it is my spouse who is my “through-thick-and-thin” friend. We have a kid together and live life together, it is for this reason that when I look at my ring no matter when or where I am at when I look at my ring I see that I signed up for this. That ring represents my declaration; my responsibility.

What do you see when you look at your ring/ marriage? Let me know in the comments

If you were, to be honest with yourself are you happy with your marriage how it is going and the direction it is going? I am not perfect, but I will share with you what helps me. come back and check us out or even better subscribe.

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Our Marriage is over…..

2015 I believe is the year of reclamation. so how do I as a God fearing man redeem love in my marriage? Good question. The Answer? in short, the Holy Spirit. Now here is the essay answer:

My marriage was great! In fact, it was glorious. But it has run its course and NOW IS OVER…….

Before I get the “stink-face”, stay with me.

I wrote the header above in part because I have heard this often in my career even in myself. I heard this not as a Minister but working as a Mechanic with co-workers underneath the jet with our arms up in an aircraft engine in the heat of the day with sweat jumping off our faces. Divorce affects everyone and right now you’re seeing your marriage as over and with that thought it will be. Although it does not have to be!!!

When you were married promises were made; you to your spouse and vice versa. God made a promise to both of you. not that you will win the lotto or be famous. He promised that no one will tear you both apart from each other. That being said you have a “Silent Partner” within your marriage called the Holy Spirit. let me assure you that trying to fix your marriage by yourself within your own strength is about as effective trying to stop a train on a dime even at moderate speed.

Here it is Superman. Your marriage has ended in the way you have seen it. Try loving your spouse in the way Christ loves the church. if you need outside help, get it!!! True, Jesus does not get pestered to take the trash out or even why he left the seat up. but he does get told what HIS kid did that day. All joking aside. Praying and asking the Holy Spirit to help you and guide you to a better marriage is thee only way to begin your marriage afresh.. thank you for reading and I pray that your marriage will prosper even as your soul prospers.

Wives are a blessing….. if you let them.

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