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Leadership is not always pretty. I watched how the movies serve up the hero; smooth, calm and, collective. Calling the shots like a boss.
It makes me want to be like that leader or that coach we see in the movies. I watched the movie Remember the Titans. Do you remember the scene during one part of the movie the football coach was breaking the players individuality down to reveal the need for them to rise as a team. The Coach’s way of discipline may seem brutish however, it was very effective. I later had found out that this movie was based on actual events.

While watching, My friend says “man, I could totally do that!!” I simply chuckled, as I thought to myself. not because of my friends comment. I chuckled because of what I have experienced in my leadership and what I know what it takes to be that inspiring leader.

Because leaders make leadership look easy. We look to them and believe they are larger than life. We may meet them as a character in a movie, we have known them all, but five or ten minutes of the movie and when the movie gets to the climax we are rooting when the leader is victorious. We see leaders rise in emergency situations. We assume no evil befalls them.. They don’t have “craziness” going on in their life.

In reality, it is totally different. Leaders are actively working when others are just getting to work. Leaders are those who bring a solution to the complaint or question they may have.

Leaders are human. They endure family issues they carry struggles with the metaphorical “thorn in the flesh” like the apostle Paul did. They have short comings. they fight with one hand on the battle ahead and yet another building their home. True leaders will admit they are not perfect. True leaders understand that ultimately love patches the wounds in their leadership. But leaders are tough. They push when others quit. They are the ones who thrive when others die-off because they have “grit” and sheer will. Leaders continue to lead while building up their weaknesses.
Leaders purpose their days, and not allow their days to rule them. They fight to complete priorities because LEADERS ARE ones who finish.
If you want to lead, i have given you some good guidance to start.

Here is the secret: You can already do this stuff!!! You might have to square up with the reflection you see in the mirror every morning and choose to be the leader you desire to be.
I bet you have some questions-good leaders always do. I want you to have the courage to ask questions.

How do you lead where you are?

What if no one is following you?
What would Jesus do? ha ha.
what does leadership look like to you?

I hope we can discover together what it takes to lead from a biblical perspective. share you questions.
So let’s pack our bags and go on this trip together. i can assure you we both can use this..

..Thank you for reading my post I hope we can connect in the future. If you have any prayer requests, let’s connect and join in prayer together. God bless you.

Friday Focus: Serve in the right relationship

He that hath the bride is the bridegroom: but the friend of the bridegroom, which standeth and heareth him, rejoiceth greatly because of the bridegroom’s voice: this my joy therefore is fulfilled. He must increase, but I must decrease. (‭John‬ ‭3‬:‭29-30‬ KJV)

  In a traditional wedding the best man has a very important role in the wedding ceremony. Not only is he the lead man for the rest of the groomsmen in the party, he is also the the master of ceremonies in the often memorable bachelor party. He alone is responsible for getting the groom to the wedding and of course he holds the ring. The symbol that proclaims the vision of unity.
Hear my thought; there is a bond between the groom and his best man whose relationship deepen during the whole marriage preparations. This is where the best man really earns his position: by encouraging the groom and supporting his decision to cleave to his bride, even at the demise of their close relationship, he’s not upset for he knows his friend is happy and is happy for his friend (true friends will genuinely celebrate your victories). John was feeling this very thing for Jesus, this is where John the Baptist takes a stage left and the son of God takes center stage in the face of humanity. this is the moment where John’s destiny is fulfilled and the realization is this: I can not go further until I am in the right position.
He must increase, but I must decrease. (‭John‬ ‭3‬:‭30‬ KJV)

We serve almighty God in various capacities which brings up this question?  Who is leading who? Are you allowing The Holy Spirit to lead you in your ministry, or are you directing God to follow where you may lead?
Our service should be the former, we are to allow the Holy Spirit to lead and direct us rather than the other way around. You may find that once you’re in the right position, the Lord takes center stage of your life . This should be our focus as leaders, ministers and pastors. Just as planes will not take off unless things are in place ( seat backs, tray tables are in an upright and locked position) congregations can not grow in Christ. So this week,  lets focus on having the right relationship with our Lord and Savior recognizing him as our pilot, not the flight attendant. Have a great week.

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